Anu Dayal-Gulati

Author, Transformation Coach, Speaker

www.healyourancestralroots.com

Around a year

In Newton, MA. After joining Spiritual Women of New England, discovered this group.

Many years ago, I came to the U.S. to earn my Ph.D. in economics. Bereft of family and friends in cold New England, I missed the warmth and sunshine of India. Money was tight and it barely stretched far enough to call home or buy a warm winter coat. Armed at last with my newly minted doctorate degree, I was ecstatic to get my coveted, dream job. Suddenly, I could buy things I had yearned for and get paid to travel around the globe. Even more, I loved the work I did! I felt validated, appreciated and acknowledged.

Yet, after my son was born, I found it overwhelming trying to balance work and family. In frustration, I quit my dream job and let my husband’s career determine where my family would live while I focused on raising our son. But, after two moves, the ground had cracked open beneath my feet. Death, dislocation and health issues in my family weighed me down. I could barely manage to get through the endless, repetitive, routines of the day—groceries, errands, carpool, and dinner—the little, daily moments that create life. I had a resume of accomplishments—published books, degrees, research papers, and professional experience—but the skills I had did not match the challenges I was dealing with. Barely functional, I experienced my “dark night of the soul.” It was at this time, in the midst of my despair, that I stumbled on flower essences. My rational mind wanted to dismiss them, but my anguished heart needed support and the essences started to nurture me with their gentle care.

I made a decision to abandon my career altogether and craft a life in alignment with what I truly believed. I trained and became a certified flower essence practitioner. As my practice started to grow, I started to notice intergenerational patterns in my clients' lives and my own life. That led to a two year training in Family Constellation Therapy. This training in ancestral healing work and my own spiritual traditions showed me how to shift the burden of these patterns so that clients could find the inner confidence to create the lives they want.

Hope is the hardest love we carry for ourselves. Having seen my life blossom again, I knew I wanted to help and guide others to see the value of their life experiences and recover their sense of hope and happiness. I wanted to help people reclaim their personal power and not give up.

For the last ten years, I have been working with my clients, and this has been both deeply gratifying and humbling. As I see the shifts that unfold in their lives—speaking up assertively at work, leaving a troubled relationship, improving their relationships with their children, making peace with their hurtful past—I know this is not just another job. I have found my calling—to help others tune into their emotional guidance system, reclaim their personal power, and come home to harmony and themselves.

I've experienced and reached outward markers of success that were beyond anything I could have imagined! But, I've learned that success requires us to upgrade ourselves to handle new levels of challenge. And what we see as failure, is sometimes a hidden gift. For me success is now internal--it is the internal milestones I cross as I face challenge and growth!

The deepest gratification comes not from my milestones, but seeing my clients' transformation. It always makes me feel that my work is worthwhile.

One of the biggest challenges was helping the client see the journey they're on and the transformation that I wanted them to understand and accomplish. This ultimately became my book in which readers have the same knowledge I share with my clients to empower them to create the changes they want.

When something is hard or challenging, I ask myself the question, ``What is asking to be seen? What do I need to learn? What do I need to understand?`` I'm standing on the leading edge of my personal growth and I handle this by taking my flower essences. particularly, Gentian, Sweet Chestnut, Elm and Larch. Each of these has a specific role. Gentian for making you feel that you are up to the challenge, Sweet Chestnut, for providing optimism and lifting my spirits, Elm for feeling overwhelmed, and Larch for confidence. As a flower essence practitioner, I turn to them as often as I need and they work quickly to lift me up!

It's been interesting to see other entrepreneurs, some of whom are quite young. This is inspiring to see, because it's a generation forging a new path with a new set of rules for work and life. And I think this is tremendous!

I was going to self-publish my book, Heal Your Ancestral Roots: Release the Family Patterns that Hold You Back, but four days before it was to come out, I signed a contract with a well-established mind-body-spirit publisher. It was really unexpected, but they came across my manuscript, really liked it, and didn't want me to change the content either. My editor told me that in twenty five years of working as an editor, she had never seen that happen. More than proud, I felt really grateful. It felt like an act of grace for the journey I was on.

Like most women, I've always tried to balance different roles with the demands of work and home. I love to travel, being on the beach, reading, cooking, walking and hanging out with friends. Things that most people like to do! I value my quiet time in which I write--which nourishes me at a deep level.

I specialize in ancestral and emotional healing--helping people identify ancestral patterns that are present in their life and their message. Through rituals and and flower essences which provide them with an internal guidance system, they are able to release the past to reclaim their power. My approach is an integration of the mind and heart for healing, because healing cannot happen intellectually.

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