Jessica Knight.

I am a Life Coach.

2+ years.

Nope, I moved here for an ex boyfriend :).

At 29, I married a man I knew wasn’t good for me because I wanted my fairy tale ending: the career I wanted and worked for (life coaching), a child (I was pregnant), and a husband, all before reaching 30. I justified and overlooked warning signs for years – including relapses and my screaming instinct – for this fairy tale. I was the second most depressed I have ever been in my life, and when I finally worked up the courage to leave, it was after being a shell of myself and trying to leave 100 times before. I share my story as it’s relevant on our Clarity Calls (it can be really helpful to know someone “gets it” because they lived it) but choose not to write more about it here for my own personal safety <3. If you are reading this, I imagine you understand. After my marriage ended, I took 2 years off from dating (and sex) to heal. This was not done with intention – it was out of survival. I couldn’t imagine going out on a date. I was a single parent and the #1 provider to my 1-year-old. I was in therapy 2x a week and working through it (and everything that comes from co-parenting), but it wasn’t until the pandemic when everything shut down and I couldn’t distract myself from healing with workaholism, I forced myself to look at everything underneath the anxiety — to actually admit for the first time ever that I went through trauma growing up, and to understand the effects that trauma has on me, and how it was showing up in romantic relationships over and over again. The healing didn’t end there (and it will never fully end), and I learned a lot in the first few relationships (and situationships) when I started dating. I am now much more aware of my attachments, patterns, and habits, and have learned how to validate and trust myself, how to recognize abuse and gaslighting, and how to walk away from something that isn’t right for me (and how hard it can be – even with a high level of self-awareness). I understand where you are because I’ve not only been there, but I became certified in Narcissistic Abuse to specifically help women who are where I was. I’ve also been trained in Attachment Styles, Conscious Breakups, Conscious Dating, and a lot more in the field of relationships. I get it – and I am sorry you are going through it.

They would say I am blunt 🙂 that I don't let them stand in the fire and ask them how it feels. I cut to it and help them see what is happening so they can change their lives.

What if this was not happening to you, but for you?

The Fire Starter Sessions - Danielle Laporte

I live by my google calendar.

I recently started a podcast and I get a TON of amazing feedback. I LOVE getting an email from someone telling me my podcast changed the way they thought about their relationship.

To let go of relationships that don't lift you up. They won't matter in a few years, even though the weight feels so heavy in the moment. There is so much more life.

I love hiking, hanging out with my daughter, learning more (always learning!)

I love football so so much! I camp out all day on Sunday and scream at the TV and my fantasy teams.